Why Do Women Blame The 'Other Woman' More Than Their Partner?
When Jordyn Woods publicly admitted to being intimate with NBA star Tristan Thompson, his ex-girlfriend Khloe Kardashian was quick to hold *her* accountable.
After Jordyn conceded to kissing Khloe's on-again, off-again partner Tristan, Khloe's response was telling.
Khloe -- who began dating the NBA star when his ex-girlfriend Jordan Craig was pregnant with their son, Prince -- audaciously blamed Jordyn, 21.
She tweeted to Jordyn -- and her 26 million followers -- "You ARE the reason my family broke up!", referring to her, Tristan and their daughter, True.
A follow-up tweet from Khloe an hour later claimed while Tristan was "equally to blame" for the tryst, he was her child's father so she saw him differently.
Despite him having already been caught cheating on Khloe in the past, Jordyn has evidently bore the brunt of her romantic exchange with Tristan.
"I know I'm not the reason Tristan and Khloe are not together," Jordyn told Jada Pinkett Smith during her admission of guilt on Red Table Talk.
Like Khloe, women are often less furious at their man because of a "gender gap", relationship expert Samantha Jayne told 10 daily.
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"Women are considered the ones that are responsible to keep the relationship together -- not the man," Jayne said.
"Blaming the other woman feels like you have more control of the situation. It places less doubt in your mind about your choice of pattern, or perhaps your role in your relationship."
The other woman can be viewed as a "temptress", which makes it easier to overlook or even absolve a husband or boyfriend for their behaviour.
"Cheating is a big no no, however sometimes it can be a huge opportunity to rekindle your relationship," Jayne said.
"The rekindling is much easier if you don’t see it as your partner's fault and blame the other woman, because all you need to do in your mind is get rid of the other woman and your problem's solved."
According to research by Cardiff Metropolitan University, women are more inclined to blame 'the other woman' in an affair than their cheating partner.
The 2017 study calculated its results by having 21 men and 23 women look at messages sent during an affair that played out via Facebook.
As for Jordyn -- who claims she was drunk when she kissed Tristan -- there's no excuse for her actions, according to Jayne.
"Ultimately it’s bad character and she was only thinking of herself," Jayne said.
Khloe has since backtracked on her stance, saying the blame rests entirely with Tristan. But as Jayne explained, putting the blame squarely on Jordyn would reinforce Tristan's actions as okay.
"If you blame the other woman there are no consequences for your man -- so it’s actually reinforcing the behaviour is acceptable," she said.
"You need to ask, is that something you want to do?"
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