Your Friend Knows You Better Than Your Partner Does, According To A New Study
Female friends know more about each other than their respective romantic partners do.
According to new research into female friendships conducted by The Book of Everyone, one in four women revealed that their female best bud knows them better than their other half.
The study also found that the average woman has six best friends over their lifetime -- and that they last longer than romantic relationships.
Female friendships have an average lifespan of 16 years and while that doesn't seem long it's got six years on the average romantic relationship -- those last 10 years.
Lysn psychologist Breanna Jayne Sada told 10 daily that the difference in duration may have something to do with how much pressure and expectations people place on their romantic relationships.
"When our significant others don’t meet those standards we’ve set, things can quickly end," she said.
On the other hand, there are less expectations or demands involved in platonic friendships so we’re less likely to be disappointed as often, Sada explained.
While we overlook our friends' flaws and give them second chances -- and third and fourths -- these quickly turn into deal breakers with romantic partners.
We also tend to spend a lot more time with a romantic partner -- more on that later -- which can mean that the spark fizzles out over time.
So, the saying is true -- love comes and goes but true friendship lasts forever. Or at least half a dozen years longer.
Turns out friendships trump romance in other ways as well. Just under 50 percent of gals wish they could spend more time with their bezzie and one in ten admitted that they have more fun with their BFF than with their significant other.
Isn’t that a bit sad? Shouldn’t women be having just as much fun with their partners, too?
"Yes, it is sad!" Sada told 10 daily. But it could also be a case of absence making the heart grow fonder.
"Perhaps the reason they say they have more fun with their best friends is because they don’t see their friends as often?" she said.
There's not much that can top a good giggle with the girls but ladies can have just as much fun with their partners. There a few ways to do this, Sada explained, such as putting in the effort to spend fun quality time together.
"Instead of getting caught up in the run of the mill activities like grocery shopping and laundry ... bring some excitement back to spending time with your partner, schedule out specific dates where you might do something different or new and it gives you something to look forward to," she said.
or, why not try to have the best of both worlds? Spend time with your BFF and your partner -- "your friends and romantic relationships should be integrated so you can all spend time enjoying one another’s company," Sada said.
The study also found that women spend almost 70 percent more time working on their romantic relationships compared to their friendships.
Why, you ask?
"I think unfortunately for some women, platonic relationships can take a back seat or a lower priority when they become involved with someone romantically," Sada said.
This is, of course, fine at first, and people tend to expect this -- especially during the honeymoon phase of a relationship. So don't be too hard on yourself -- or your galpals -- if that much-needed girls' night out keeps getting pushed back in favour of nights in with bae.
Don't forget that all relationships -- including friendships -- need nurturing, according to Sada, so it’s important to make time to do that. Your BFFs needs validation, affirmation and reminders that they are important just as much as your romantic partners do.
But it's not all bad news for you and your BFFs -- the study found that women over 55-years-old have an average friendship length of a solid 23 years. Looks like friendships are something we get better at with age.
Which is a good thing too -- studies have proven that a lack of social connection can lead to things like depression, weaker immune systems, and higher mortality rates compared to those with close connections, according to Sada.
"Platonic relationships are incredibly important ... we all need someone to lean on in our lives, and sometimes that needs to be someone other than your romantic partner. Platonic relationships can provide a different perspective, give advice and often provide an unbiased view of a situation -- they give us a sense of belonging and purpose," she said.
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