How Soon Is Too Soon To Move On After A Breakup?
The internet went into somewhat of a meltdown on Monday, after learning that actor Chris Pratt popped the question to his girlfriend of several months, Katherine Schwarzenegger.
The news came just three months after Pratt finalised his divorce with his ex-wife, Anna Faris after they split in August 2017 following nine years of marriage.
They share a son together, six-year-old Jack.
Pratt made the announcement on his Instagram page and apart from the well-wishers, a quick scan of the comments revealed one overwhelming sentiment -- how quickly Pratt seemingly moved-on from his former relationship.
But is there such a thing as moving on "too soon"? To find out we spoke to relationship expert Melissa Ferrari.
Is There A Right Time To Move On?
According to Ferrari the only person who is able to answer that question is, well, you.
"To understand this properly, you need to understand how you personally manage loss and grief," she said.
Ferrari went on to say that everybody deals with grief in their own way, with some people needing to "preoccupy themselves" to cope, while others find it better to "sit and reflect on what has occurred".
"If you're somebody who does find it easier to move on by applying and preoccupying yourself with healthy distractions (the key word being healthy), then there is nothing wrong with starting a new relationship," she said.
But, Ferrari warns, if you're someone who prefers to take the time to understand what happened, then she recommends taking time out to do that on your own.
"Some people want to feel their grief," she said. "So it's important to take the time out to do that."
What About Taking Time Out To Find 'Yourself'?
Ferrari said that one of the biggest pieces of "bulls**t advice" out there is forcing people to "stay away from relationships" in order to "find themselves" after going through a big breakup.
She explains: "I know a lot of people think that when they’ve been in a long relationship they have to go and maybe find themselves again, or be alone for a while to work themselves out, but my opinion sometimes people can take too long doing that and, to be honest, we are going to learn more in a relationship with another person than being alone."
Don't Judge Others
All in all, Ferrari is stern in her directive not to judge anyone who has gone through a relationship breakdown.
"Everybody has a judgement on how quickly someone should move on in a relationship," she said.
"But we need to understand that no one knows what was going on in that relationship -- they could’ve felt abandoned for a long time and, for whatever reason, tried to keep the relationship together."
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