Expert Reveals Why It's Never OK To Snoop Around On Your Partner's Phone
Nope, not even a little peek.
We've all been there -- your partner steps away from the room for a moment and leaves their phone within your reach.
It's a Sliding Doors moment: Do you have a cheeky snoop through it? Or do you simply leave it be?
According to dating and relationship coach Iona Yeung, there's only one right answer and that is to leave it be.
"Phones should be off limits," Yeung told 10 daily. "I don't ever think there is a time when we should snoop because it implies mistrust in a relationship."
Why Do We Feel The Need To Snoop?
For most people reaching for your partner's phone is something of a last resort move in a relationship -- meaning, we're not doing it for shits and giggles or out of habit.
So what makes someone do it? Yeung said it all boils down to "needing reassurance".
"Borrowing your partner's phone to check the time or use their internet when your phone isn't around is very different from snooping. Snooping implies going through their social media accounts and checking their messages. It's often a sign of lack of trust or co-dependency in a relationship."
What About Cheating?
For Venus Jordan* having a snoop on her ex-boyfriend's phone was the best decision she's ever made.
'We had just gotten back together but something wasn't sitting right with me," she told 10 daily.
"I grabbed his phone when he ducked out to the store and sure enough there were messages from a woman talking about their unborn baby -- a baby he'd never mentioned in the eight weeks or so since he'd re-entered my life. I confronted him immediately and he apologised and said there was no way I would have taken him back if I knew. I told him to leave and never come back."
But Yeung warns that might not always be the best way to deal with the situation.
She advises that if we suspect our partner of cheating we first, "give them a chance to tell their side of the story."
"You can open the conversation by expressing that something feels 'off' in the relationship. Give them space to tell you the truth," she said. Yeung, however, was quick to clarify that she's "not suggesting that an explanation can justify their wrongdoing. But it might help you understand the reasons behind it to give you more context and closure."
What's The Big Deal With Breaking The Trust Anyway?
For Yeung, breaking the trust in your relationship can pretty much spell the end of it.
"It's something that takes days, weeks, months or even years to build and one second to break," she said. "Once it's broken it's very difficult to recover. The relationship resets and another one forms and that's only if both people want to make it work."
TL;DR: Don't snoop. Talk more. Relationship drama solved.
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