After Having A Caesarean With Her First Baby, Akaysha Desperately Wanted A Natural Birth
A VBAC is a vaginal birth after caesarean and, for the expectant mum, it was an important ideal to aim for.
Akaysha Weatherall is one of the many pregnant women appearing on 'One Born Every Minute Australia', a series that takes us into the birthing suites of Westmead Hospital and along with it, the incredible real life stories that explore exactly what it's like to give birth.
Yet despite having 60 little cameras recording her each and every move, the mum from Annangrove said she didn't notice being filmed during the process, which explores her want for a vaginal birth.
"I think when you’re in labour and that amount of pain and you’re in the zone you’re not really thinking about your surrounds almost," the 28-year-old told 10 daily.
"It’s like the pain just takes over and you get into your breathing and you’re just trying to work out what’s comfortable."
While Akaysha said her parents, husband and sister in law mentioned they could hear the cameras, the expectant mum was instead focused on ensuring as much as she possibly could that she did everything she could to give birth naturally when she went into labour last June.
"The main reason it was very important to me [to have a VBAC] is because after having a caesarean last time, it was an emergency, it was a little bit traumatic, it all just went from being like ‘Oh you’re in labour’ to going ‘Wow actually, we need to get the baby out now’," she explained.
"I think having an almost three-year-old at the time, I knew the recovery for a caesarean was harder on the body. It’s eight layers of muscle and flesh and everything, it’s like a major surgery."
For this reason Akaysha very much wanted to try for a vaginal birth so she could pick up her baby and eldest son, Ray, without pain and the need to "bubble wrap" herself in the weeks after the procedure.
Akaysha said during the experience, she was very appreciate of the support she received from the staff at Westmead Hospital, particularly one of her midwives, Bec.
"Bec was there for the longest bit. She was there for pretty much the overnight stint and she had three boys so you know, I was on my second boy. I could really relate to her and I mean her youngest was only little as well, so she’s been able to guide me from her own personal experience as well," she said.
"She kind of gauged for me exactly what I would like. You know I like to be a little bit of a hippie so she was like: “I’ll get the diffuser, I’ll get the clary sage out” and started bringing all those little things in."
Akaysha said Bec adapted to who she was as a person and what she wanted for her second birth but also told her what she needed to hear from a medical perspective.
"She was very calming and reassuring. She was totally on board with the person I was and what the best outcome would be too," Akaysha told 10 daily.
While the birthing process was undoubtedly hard for Akaysha, she acknowledges for her partner Grant, and men in general, it's not as easy as we often think.
"As mums we’re all like, 'Oh suck it up, you’re not the one going through all this pain.' But the truth is, they’re watching the person they love in agony. They essentially put them in that position. So they’re feeling guilty. They’re feeling unsure," she said.
"They will never know the amount of pain we’re actually in. They will never understand it. So they’re just watching from this outside perspective trying to be the most supportive they can be. You know, getting us ice, fixing the blankets and getting us to the bathroom."
Akaysha said Grant saw the birth of their second child from a completely different side and that pregnant women while they are giving birth often forget their partners are struggling and having a hard time too.
"That’s why I asked my mum and sister in law in. They can then support Grant if he needs a moment. He’s just amazing. He was just the best. He’s the person you want to father your kids. He’s the ultimate," she said.
Akaysha said when you are in the birthing suite it's important to remember one thing from the father's perspective: "The person you love is giving birth to your beautiful baby but it’s such a long journey to get there."
Akaysha's birth with feature on One Born Every Minute Australia On Tuesday at 8.30pm, Only on 10 and WIN Network.
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