Yes, Your Exes Are Blowing Back Into Your Life And Astrology Is To Blame
Mercury retrograde is causing some strange things to happen -- and forcing your 'exes' back into your path, whether old friends or former flames, is one of them.
If you're yet to hear of Mercury retrograde, you might want to get acquainted -- because chances are it's the reason an ex of some kind just popped back into your life. And if they haven't yet? We're sorry to say, they're probably about to.
Mercury retrograde refers to the moment when the planet Mercury changes its orbit and appears to be moving backwards.
When it comes to astrology, Mercury is in charge of communication, intelligence and timing -- so when the planet goes into retrograde it can mess things up big time.
We're in the middle of one right now and it ends on July 31, so we still have a little while to hang in there.
But another fun side effect of Mercury retrograde -- besides making you run late to have an argument with your mum -- is that it's likely to cause an ex to enter the picture again. Fun.
“Old lovers, exes, and friends will come back, if only to explain themselves one more time,” astrologer Lisa Stardust told Refinery29.
“We have the power to refrain from keeping the discussion going.”
So what is it about Mercury retrograde that makes these exes reappear? Astrologer and empath Greg Summers told 10 daily it comes down to the astrological manta of "as above, so below."
"As Mercury’s orbit of the sun is the shortest, it innately channels those relationships closest to us," he said.
And yes, that sometimes means relations, present and past.
"So when Mercury appears to be orbiting in reverse – 'retrograde' – it’s a sign from the forces of the universe that too will reverse. We revisit those intimate relationships."
Astrologer Teymara Wright agreed. She told 10 daily that a planet in retrograde is partly about reliving and resolving past issues.
But whether or not it's a good or bad idea to engage with your ex during Mercury retrograde is a little trickier to answer, and largely depends on the type of relationship you had with them.
"Not all relationships end simply. If the relationship with your ex was harmful, physically or emotionally, then the universe would not be encouraging you to rekindle those flames," Summers told 10 daily.
Wright echoed this same sentiment and said it's important to remember an ex is an ex for a reason.
"If you haven’t learnt the lessons around why you attracted the person in the first place or what you needed to learn, then having contact can support you to move on," she told 10 daily.
But Summers said it's important to remember exes don't always reappear to reopen trauma, but might come back into the picture for another reason entirely.
"Perhaps it is time to attain closure. Or perhaps that person has been brought back into your orbit simply to remind you of your true wants and needs, and enable you to reflect on how much you’ve changed," he said.
"And sometimes – more importantly – the universe is giving this love a second chance. Positive energies like love and hope are the strongest forces in the unconscious plane, and they greatly shape the behaviour of the material plane in which we live."
If you're considering letting an ex back into your life, Summers said it's important to think about what this could do, and take the time to think about what you really want.
"All things in this place are temporary. Nothing is immortal. Things come into existence, and just as quickly leave existence," he said.
So too for our relationships – these people will leave as quickly as they have arrived.
"You set your own terms. The Universe sends a message, yes, but it is entirely in your power to interpret and enact that message for your own best outcome."
If you're wondering how long your ex is going to stick around for, Wright said it all depends on how quickly you learn the lesson they have come back to teach you.
She advised that it's important to remember: "You can’t change another person all you can do is change yourself" when deciding if you want to be with your ex again or not.
So step back, take stock, and think about why this ex might've popped back into your life. The sooner you do, the more likely they are to make an exit.
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