What Do You Do If You've "Marie Kondo-verdosed" And Thrown Out Too Much?
Since her TV show started the whole world has gone mad for a clean up -- but what happens if you go too far?
Before the TV show, Tidying Up, Marie Kondo released her book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organising back in 2011 and for Gina*, it was life changing.
"I lived in a very cluttered house," she told 10 daily. "Marie came along and suddenly it all made sense, and I began to tidy everything. And I mean everything."
And she's not alone. Someone in the 10 daily office who may or may not have written this very article, has recently KonMari-ed her home. She and her husband spent two very successful -- if somewhat stressful -- days cleaning out a whole load of things from cupboards, as well as ridding all surfaces of nick nacks and completely rejuvenating her husband's wardrobe including taking a huge bag of clothes to the charity bin and folding and storing all of his clothes the KonMari way.
It was exhausting.
Gina said she followed the rules to the letter -- and sorted her belongings into categories dictated by Kondo: clothing, books, papers, Komono (miscellaneous items) and mementos (items with sentimental value).
And she then began what Kondo calls the "life changing magic" herself.
"Clothes were always my problem," she told 10 daily. "I had so many -- I love nothing more than an op shop expedition, and my wardrobe really reflected that. I had about 16 fake fur jackets, for example."
Asking herself what sparked joy about those jackets -- and all the other things in the wardrobe -- Gina took bag upon bag of used clothes to the op shop and charity bins. She was ruthless -- if she hadn't worn it, or had forgotten she even had it, out it went. "I was ditching everything -- I realised that I just had to cleanse myself of all this stuff, it was really cathartic.
Soon her house looked immaculate. Every surface was clean, all her objects were given their own places and thanked for their service. She was cleansed and Kondo-ed.
And then. She realised she had nothing to wear.
"Things got worse when the seasons changed. I had been far more ruthless when winter seemed like an age away but when the temperature dropped I realised I had culled too much."
As did the person who may or may not have written this piece.
In the fluster and excitement of ridding themselves of "stuff", it seems they both did a little bit too much decluttering.
According to Gemma Quinn, Certified Platinum KonMari Consultant, there are some things you can do to prevent this happening to you.
"When you KonMari the first thing you do, besides committing to completing your tidying marathon, is visualise your ideal life, both at a macro and micro level," she told 10 daily. "You ask yourself what is your ideal life, and then you joy check -- the act of holding each item and asking if it sparks joy for you -- so, if you do those things honestly and truthfully, people don't generally let go of things they really love."
In other words, if you're doing the process properly, you won't throw out too much.
"Yes, rather than a hurried or excited purging session, it's more calm and focussed on what sparks joy for you," continued Gemma.
Ah, Gina. Oh well. This is where you went wrong.
The bottom line is choosing what to keep -- and that's only the things that spark joy and allow you to live your ideal life.
Here's the thing -- it's not ACTUALLY about what you get rid of, it's what you keep that matters.
"Exactly," said Gemma. "You get rid of everything you own except what sparks joy and helps you live your ideal life."
And if you have left things a little sparse? You can buy yourself new things -- Marie Kondo does allow it! But they have to be the right things.
"You should only buy things that spark joy, too," Gemma told 10 daily. "And make sure you're buying something that sparks actual joy not just gives you a little retail therapy. You need to know that the actual belonging that you will have to look after will make you happy and live your ideal life."
OK, we get it now.
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