This Genius App Will Call You Out For Apologising In Emails
Sorry, not sorry.
Do you find yourself apologising for, well ... everything?
When you sneeze too loudly in the office? Sorry!
When you need to squeeze past someone to get off the bus? Sorry, can I just ...?
When you accidentally interrupt someone else's conversation? Oh, sorry, you go!
You probably don't even realise how much you actually do it every single day.
It's no secret that women tend to be the ones saying sorry the most. It might have something to do with being brought up to be obedient, grateful and pleasant young ladies.
Well, now there's an app that wants to help you stop saying soz all the time. In your emails, at least.
'Just Not Sorry' is a Chrome Extension for Gmail that will call you out for using passive words and phrases like 'sorry,' 'actually' and 'I'm not an expert but ...'
According to the creators of the extension, this type of 'soft' language undermines your message.
The description for the extension is as direct and snappy as you would expect:
We're Just NOT Sorry! Let's stop qualifying our message and diminishing our voice. Inspired by the writings of Tara Mohr and others, this Chrome Extension for Gmail will warn you when you use words or phrases that undermine your message.
As you type your email, the extension will flag weak words that it believes could be corrected for more impact. It offers helpful advice about how your phrase could be perceived by the recipient and suggests ways to correct it.
The brainchildren behind this brilliant idea -- Tami Reiss, Steve Brudz, Manish Kakwani, and Eric Tillberg of Def Method -- believe in the theories of inspirational women’s leadership and well-being expert, Tara Mohr.
For Mohr, the word 'just' is at the top of her list of eight words or phrases that undermines the way women communicate.
In her opinion, saying things like, “I’m just wondering …” “I just think …” “I just want to add …” demeans what the writer has to say.
"'Just' shrinks your power. It’s time to say goodbye to the justs," she wrote.
As well as dropping 'just' Mohr wants women to ditch 'actually' -- as in, "I actually have a question," -- and "I'm no expert..." as they too fail to command power.
Outside of emails and other forms of written communication, Mohr encourages women to be conscious of making their statements sound like questions by raising the pitch of their voice when speaking.
"When you have something to say, don’t couch it in a question," is her advice.
We're not saying that the 'Just Not Sorry' extension is for the exclusive use of women. Anyone who struggles with asserting their voice might find it a useful tool. Because at the end of the day, sometimes sorry just doesn't cut it.
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