The Wonders Of Being (And Having) A Dad
Author, actor and father William McInnes has 'more holes in him than Swiss cheese'.
William McInnes sees himself a little like his father -- a funny guy who was "a bit offhand" and rough around the edges.
"He would get into a temper, he'd be yelling and carrying on and then he'd see you. He would pick you up, give you a big cuddle and say, 'I love you, you're alright'. Then he'd go back to yelling, " the Australian actor and author told ten daily.
"The older I became, the more I realised just how kind he was."
Years later, McInnes' two kids are becoming adults, and he is taking cues from his old man.
"I tell my kids whenever I can that I love them, for one... it probably bores them," he said.
"The thing about being a father is you're the first port of call for your child's idea of what a grown up male is. It's not just what you say, it's how you conduct yourself," he said.
McInnes is the first to admit he isn't perfect (who is?) To use a classic dad joke, he "has more holes in me than Swiss cheese".
But in between the holes are a series of "combustible moments" that have defined his experience of fatherhood, wrapped into his new book, 'Fatherhood: Stories About Being A Dad'.
"It's definitely not a how-to guide. If anything, it's a gentle take on the everyday adventures and wonders of being a dad," he said.
"That's how big the book is."
And it certainly hasn't been smooth sailing. McInnes writes of putting the washing through with methylated spirits as fabric softener, or being left to do the weekly shop as a widower, after losing his wife years ago.
Life can be like this.
And then, he writes of those moments when the clock turns full circle.
"We were flying to Japan, and I'm not a great flier, so I have started to say things out loud, like 'get the big bloke off 4C'" he said.
"I was carrying on and my daughter held my hand, smiled at me and said, 'everything would be alright'.
"And it was."