Actual Suicide Note, Now Turned Into Art Sending A Powerful Message
It's the kind of note no one wants to read.
Finding a loved one's suicide note would be the ultimate nightmare. It was almost a reality for Nathan Tomlin's family.
Tomlin had been grappling with depression and reeling from the death of his mother when he wrote the note, and apologised for not being able to keep fighting.
"I'm tired, I'm empty, I'm sorry I truly am," the note read.
He’d made a playlist of his favourite songs, and was about to end his life — when an expected text message came through during the final tune.
"That kind of was a catalyst for me to stop the process of what I was doing," Tomlin told 10 daily.
That very note he wrote in 2005 is now being used to encourage other Aussie men to speak about their mental health battles.
The note has been adapated into modern art as part of the Movember Foundation's Grow A Mo, Save A Bro initiative.
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"Looking at it now, I still remember how I felt on that night and no-one should go through that."
A copy of Tomlin's note has been spray onto a wall in Melbourne's Hosier Lane, and is being used to spread the message that it's OK to ask for help.
While Tomlin says he was hesitant to use it at first, he says he's pleased with how many people the note might help.
"I think as far as the reach goes and as far as the impact goes I think it's gonna be pretty much spot on for what we're all after, which is obviously saving men's lives."
Men around Australia are shaving down and growing out their 'mo's' as part of a visual movement to encourage the discussion of men's health. PHOTO CREDIT: AAPAccording to Movember, 75 percent of suicides in Australia are men.
Tomlin says the issue of toxic masculinity is still a dangerous one and thinks men can better demonstrate strength by asking for help.
"The strongest men these days are the men who are actually going up and approaching the guys from Movember, they're approaching Beyond Blue, they're approaching counsellors."
While there are many people and organisations that can offer support, Tomlin says sometimes the best way to ask for help is to simply have a chat with a friend.
"Nothing beats talking to a mate about it or talking to a close friend, I know it's hard, like it was very hard for me, I only told my brother and sister about it."
Movember also sheds light on other serious men's health issues -- including testicular and prostate cancer.
Network 10 personality Jonathan Coleman became a Movember ambassador after recently battling prostate cancer.
He says things like growing a moustache in November is a light-hearted way of bringing men's health to the fore.
"The good thing about Movember's appeal is the camraderie it creates between those who are participating.
"Movember is all about friends, whether they be guys or girls saying 'Steve, you have to get off your ass and just go and do it' and by growing a moustache it encourages people to have a conversation with their GP or their workmates, that's what it's all about."
If you need help in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For further information about depression contact beyondBlue on 1300 22 4636 or talk to your GP, local health professional or someone you trust.