Why We Should Stop Asking Women About Their Baby Plans

It might seem innocent enough, but they're words that can do a lot of harm.

"So when are you having a baby?"

It's the question young women in their 20s and 30s and newly married couples are bound to be asked at one point or another.

While the question can seem innocent or even simple, for the thousands of women who have faced complications during pregnancy, lost babies or for young couples struggling to conceive, it can be deeply distressing.

Now, one magazine is vowing not to ask its interviewees unsolicited questions about their baby plans.

Editor-in-Chief of Stellar magazine, Sarrah Le Marquand said her own personal experiences prompted the lifestyle magazine to cut the question from their interviews.

Sarrah Le Marquand. Photo: The Project

Speaking to The Project on Thursday, Le Marquand said the magazine was moving away from the "automatic reaction" to ask women of "so-called child-bearing years" the same question.

"For a lot of people that are secretly struggling with pregnancy loss or having fertility issues, it's actually a question that really cuts them to the core," she told the panel.

"We felt as a magazine that we didn't want to be playing that role any more."

Le Marquand detailed her own painful experience of being asked about her baby plans by friends, while she was privately dealing with not one, but two pregnancy losses.

"It was an extremely difficult time, both physically and emotionally, and I was still quietly struggling with the heartache," she wrote in The Daily Telegraph this week.

She told The Project that while it may seem like an innocent question, it can automatically put women on the defensive.

"The seemingly innocent question is really not that innocent after all."

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Le Marquand, now a mum of two, said the magazine had received a "huge reaction" from a lot of women, over its decision to scrap the question from interviews.

"The reaction today from women has been huge."

She said while she hadn't heard from any men yet, she would like to encourage any who felt uncomfortable about speaking up on the topic to share their own experiences.

"I welcome your input and I think you should be part of the conversation."

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