A Judge Just Ordered This 30-Year-Old Man To Move Out Of His Parents' Home
And we're like dude, you're 30 - he's doing you a favour!
Meet Michael Rotondo -- a 30-year-old New Yorker whose parents just went to court to ask a judge to evict him. Yes, you read that right.
You see, Michael wouldn't leave their home. Moving back in at the age of 22 after he lost his job, Michael stayed put. He had his own room, did his own washing, bought his own food. He didn't, however, get a new job.
The court heard that during the period of his stay, Michael also didn’t pay rent or help around the house. His parents Christina and Mark encouraged him to fly the coop but Michael wouldn’t budge. Desperate, they presented him with an eviction letter -- followed by four more. Still, Michael clung on. The family didn't speak to each other even though they lived under the same roof in Syracuse, New York. Christina and Mark finally had enough and asked a judge to forcibly evict him. Michael claimed he had the right to six months' more rent-free accommodation but the judge disagreed, ordering him to leave in a reasonable time frame.
Sounds a little harsh -- a lot really -- but Mr and Mrs Rotondo were likely doing their son a favour.
Author, mentor and public speaker, James Harding, says that moving out is a rite of passage we should all embrace. “Even in ancient time, young boys were forced to go out and fend for themselves -- I grew up with a lot of men who didn’t leave home for a long time and they all turned out to have lived sheltered lives with narrow perspectives. Moving out gives you an appreciation of how to live in the big bad world.”
Harding, who speaks openly about the fact that he was forced to leave home by his mother after she found drugs in his pocket, was 19 when he moved out, and says that it was the making of him. “I instinctively knew I would get a new appreciation for my parents once I moved out -- and I was right. I had to think for myself, pay my bills and it really was the catalyst for what made me the person I am.”
Psychologist Breanna Jayne Sada from Lysn agrees that waiting til the big 3-0 before packing up your childhood bedroom is a mistake.
"Let's face it there are lots of reasons why you shouldn't or can't move out of home; the rising costs of living, housing prices, slow wage growth not to mention mum's amazing cooking and wanting to save for your European summer holiday. However stepping into the real world sooner rather than later helps equip us with the life skills we need to overcome inevitable challenges of adulthood,” says Sada.
"Becoming an independent adult is an important milestone in life and one of the developmental tasks that signifies the successful completion of adolescence. Living independently from your parents allows you to develop a greater sense of who you are and what you value.”
If you’re still at home or you have mates who are -- don’t feel too horrible about it. For one thing, you’re not alone. In Australia census data shows that adults are staying at home for longer -- in fact, the proportion of 20 to 24-year-olds living with parents grew from 41.4 per cent to 43.4 per cent between 2011 and 2016. For 25 to 29-year-olds, the jump was from 15.7 per cent to 17 per cent.
It’s thought that much of this is driven by housing prices, particularly in the major cities such as Sydney and Melbourne where property prices have sky-rocketed and income growth has done quite the opposite.
Those who are staying at the hotel of mum and dad may tell you that this the only way they can save for a home of their own. And it’s possible that’s correct.
But then again the question has to be asked … are you really even saving any money by staying at home or are you simply free-ing up the funds so that there’s more cash for the fun stuff such as culottes and avocado on toast? And if so, have you considered that leaving home is about far more than your bank balance. Please refer to the expert quotes above.
Which brings us back to you, Michael Rotondo. Sure, the wide world can be a rough and tumble and occasionally terrifying place, but the only way to learn how to survive out there is to well, get out there. So start packing, mate. Tell your parents you love them. Let them know where you are and contact them regularly. They'll worry about you. But not so much that they'll want you to move back in. Well, not just yet anyway.
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